Ok….I want to hear Everyone’s take on the following:
One Night Stands:
Friends With Benefits:
Dating:
Long Term Relationships:
All in regards to physical and mental desires and what is behind it all….
1. One Night Stands:
How many people engage in this activity and is it any different for a woman then a man? Why are woman labeled a “slut” or “whore” and men are called “players” or “Studs”? Is there any emotion involved in this? What frame of mind does it take to do this? How many people think or want this but never act on it?
2. Friends with benefits:
The same applies to this one as the one night stand…but what defines this sort of behavior? Are the two exclusive? If they are friends as well as lovers…Does one not tend to get attached, jealous or fall in love? How safe is it on all levels (Physical & Mental)? What type of mindset does it take to accomplish this? I assume very independent people…???
3. Dating:
What is dating exactly? Is it kind of like a taste test? Ok Pervs! You know what I meant! The truth of the matter is that you never really get to know someone from a few simple dates. What are your expectations? Usually neither person ever truthfully reveals themsleves and puts on a show to achieve their own personal objective. Think about it…You both try and fix yourself up and usually one is looking for sex and the other is looking for love. Sometimes they are both looking for the same thing but on different levels of commitment. Too bad neither one of them will ever tell each other from the beginning and end up wasting each other’s time. A lot of people end up in a long term relationship and were never meant to be matched in the first place. Finally…What in your mind makes it move on to a “long term relationship”? When you two have sex? Are you settling because they meet “most” of your needs?
4. Long Term Relationship:
Is this what everyone really wants? Based on all your previous relationships like this…Has it really provided you with the security you have always wanted? What are the odds and reaching this level and finding the right person? I believe that there is someone for everyone but finding them is key. It all depends on the person. Is sex important in a long term relationship? It is very important! What if he wants it all the time and she doesn’t…or vice versa. What if she is into kinky, wild BDSM and he is a straight preacher boy (no offense)? What if one of them was abused and never get help to resolve these issues. They either refuse to participate in certain activities or go to the extreme to feel “loved”. Is that really healty? How many people get in this type of relationship but really only wanted number 1 or 2??? We all know communication is what will keep it alive but that applies in all regards. It is also important to be matched with personal independence so that each person has that “Me” time.
Send me your thoughts or comments! 
Thanks!
Comment to post:
1. I don’t believe in the double standard. As long as both parties are fully
aware that it’s just a one night stand…well, then…Go for it! Personally, I
don’t understand the whole “it’s just sex” concept. For me, my emotions are too
closely tied to the few people I have had sex with. To me, sex is absolutely
mind blowing when it’s with the person you are in love with. It’s almost as if
your souls touch during a mutual orgasm, and I cannot imagine that happening
with a one night stand. Maybe I’m just naive. If so, I would rather stay in my
prude little shell.
2. Freinds with benefits. One of my best female friends firmly believes in
this one. Refer back to #1. If both parties agree, then there is nothing wrong
with it. I just can’t ever imagine myself in this situation.
3. I have discovered that I really detest dating. *sigh* Simply because there
ARE far too many games being played out there in the real world. JUST BE
HONEST!!! Jeez…why is this too much to ask for???? It really doesn’t matter
WHY you are dating, as long as you are HONEST about it! For pete’s sake, if you
just want an activity partner, then just say so!!! When it officially “long
term”? Well, for me, that’s has always been when you have the “talk” about
being in a serious monogomous (sp?) relationship together. It’s all about
communication. Why is that so hard for some people to understand?
4. Long term. Well, I believe that if the relationship is going to be
successful, the couple will be well matched on a physical level. In other
words, the sex life should be “comfortable” for both of them. One should always
be able to discuss the boundries, limits, fantasies, etc. with one’s partner.
Frankly, for me, a good sex life is HUGE. Maybe my libido it just more active
than other females. Sex life, “me” time, religion, finances, this all stuff you
talk about BEFORE you decide to commit to a long term relationship with someone.
Or am I just too analytical?
Wow, you sure are interested in sex!
Having a one-night-stand is man giving into animal urge. Animal urge should be curbed at all costs, because essentially, it is the human spirit that separates man from animal. The spirit is the most fragile thing. The spirit can be so easily damaged. One should always consider the long reaching ramifications of satisfying only the “natural man” without considering the spiritual self.
Friends with benefits is just an easy way of saying you don’t want to make a commitment because you don’t want to get hurt.
What’s dating?
The only kind of relationship to have is long-term. Sex is secondary. Sex with someone you love and respect will always be great. Long-term relationships are ideal, and families unions are central to the big plan of happiness. (A family can be just two people!)