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What is your dream?  Where would you like to live?  What state, city, country?  The big city, A rustic cabin up in the mountains, Near a river, The open country, etc.  Do you honestly think it will ever happen?  What could you do or change in your life to make it happen?  How many of us have these dreams but never actually get them?  Post your answers in the comments section please.  :)  Thanks!

Is happiness something that you find or does it find you?  What makes you happy?  A person(true love), yourself, materialistic items, spiritual enlightenment….?

Ok….I want to hear Everyone’s take on the following:

One Night Stands:
Friends With Benefits:
Dating:
Long Term Relationships:

All in regards to physical and mental desires and what is behind it all….

1. One Night Stands:

How many people engage in this activity and is it any different for a woman then a man? Why are woman labeled a “slut” or “whore” and men are called “players” or “Studs”? Is there any emotion involved in this? What frame of mind does it take to do this? How many people think or want this but never act on it?

2. Friends with benefits:

The same applies to this one as the one night stand…but what defines this sort of behavior? Are the two exclusive? If they are friends as well as lovers…Does one not tend to get attached, jealous or fall in love? How safe is it on all levels (Physical & Mental)? What type of mindset does it take to accomplish this? I assume very independent people…???

3. Dating:

What is dating exactly? Is it kind of like a taste test? Ok Pervs! You know what I meant! The truth of the matter is that you never really get to know someone from a few simple dates. What are your expectations? Usually neither person ever truthfully reveals themsleves and puts on a show to achieve their own personal objective. Think about it…You both try and fix yourself up and usually one is looking for sex and the other is looking for love. Sometimes they are both looking for the same thing but on different levels of commitment. Too bad neither one of them will ever tell each other from the beginning and end up wasting each other’s time. A lot of people end up in a long term relationship and were never meant to be matched in the first place. Finally…What in your mind makes it move on to a “long term relationship”? When you two have sex? Are you settling because they meet “most” of your needs?

4. Long Term Relationship:

Is this what everyone really wants? Based on all your previous relationships like this…Has it really provided you with the security you have always wanted? What are the odds and reaching this level and finding the right person? I believe that there is someone for everyone but finding them is key. It all depends on the person. Is sex important in a long term relationship? It is very important! What if he wants it all the time and she doesn’t…or vice versa. What if she is into kinky, wild BDSM and he is a straight preacher boy (no offense)? What if one of them was abused and never get help to resolve these issues. They either refuse to participate in certain activities or go to the extreme to feel “loved”. Is that really healty? How many people get in this type of relationship but really only wanted number 1 or 2??? We all know communication is what will keep it alive but that applies in all regards. It is also important to be matched with personal independence so that each person has that “Me” time.

Send me your thoughts or comments!

Thanks!